成人快播

My husband gave me a new puzzle. It鈥檚 a picture of the Earth from space. It鈥檚 intimidating. It鈥檚 round (thus curved edges), 1,000 odd-shaped pieces, lots of blue, lots of textured white, and, full disclosure, only 鈪� complete and still scattered across the coffee table.

I have another puzzle鈥� my son. He doesn鈥檛 look like me (red hair). He doesn鈥檛 think like me; in fact, he doesn鈥檛 think like a lot of us. But how he thinks doesn鈥檛 make him any more messy; he鈥檚 just a few unique pieces to put together.

My son is autistic. He has challenges related to communication, attention, and understanding of social situations, among other things. He鈥檚 also bright, funny, and kind. An autism 鈥渓abel鈥� comes with stereotypes and preconceived ideas of what autism looks like. To me, it looks like a young man who is growing up in what can be an overwhelming world, and he has his own ways to cope with its stresses and to add to its charm.

We try to encourage my son to try different activities. If it were up to him, he might play video games while simultaneously watching YouTubers play video games hour after hour. [See above: He doesn鈥檛 think like me.] But we encourage puzzles and family games as one of many breaks in that compulsion.

At EdGE, we鈥檙e thinking about how to support executive function (EF) in neurodiverse learners. EF is the attention-regulation processes involved in goal-directed problem solving. Children (and adults) may struggle with impulse control, emotional control, flexible thinking, working memory, self-monitoring, planning and prioritizing, task initiation, and organization. I think of this from the parent perspective as well. Some of the puzzles and games that we enjoy support some of these EF skills.

Ticket to Ride is one of those games, and it鈥檚 also really fun. If you鈥檙e not familiar with it, the game involves creating train routes, based on selected cards, to get to chosen destinations on tracks also coveted by other players. My son loves this game. We play it often, I think we played every day through the early pandemic鈥� talk about burnout. We no longer play with Dad though; he goes too slow. My son鈥檚 method of play, developed over time, is Speed Ticket to Ride. He knows the routes, he knows what cards he has in his hand, and he has one objective鈥� to get the longest route. And with only two people playing, he can often do this.聽

Where does the EF come in? This train engineer struggles with impulse control. So even knowing he had 5 train cars left, he would still make a choice to take 3 more routes off the deck. It took much patient training to remind him that he couldn鈥檛 put them back if they didn鈥檛 work for him, if they didn鈥檛 cover the routes he already had. But we powered through, like we do so often, and once again, game play became a learning experience for life鈥� you don鈥檛 always get what you want. He鈥檚 had to practice flexible thinking, change his assumptions, and regulate his emotions when presented with a new problem or an unpreferred outcome.

My son also has an incredible memory. So while not working on his 鈥渨orking memory,鈥� this game allows him to be successful and shine. He knows what color cards he has鈥� separated in piles (sorted), randomly scattered but remembered. And that recognition of 鈥測ou can do it鈥� success is my goal.

So back to the puzzle鈥� okay, puzzles are not his favorite, which is funny because he loved floor puzzles when he was little鈥� trains, trucks, big easily manipulated pieces. Now, when he does a puzzle, he can be distracted. Is it the smaller, not as easily manipulated pieces? Is it the overwhelming task in front of him? It helps to recognize the challenges to foster engagement and get to the point of the activity in the first place: time together, time off screens, time thinking, time engaging. It helps him when the puzzle image is something he is invested in or can relate to. Earth from above, not so much; Mandalorian or Baby Yoda, he鈥檚 all in.

But he鈥檚 worked with me on the Earth puzzle. If we鈥檙e working on supporting executive function, this is one way to practice perseverance! Recently, he put two pieces together that obviously didn鈥檛 fit. Very funny, I joked and he laughed. So he repeated that joke multiple times to get a response, and I, like any good, patient mother, kept it up. He kept at it but also stayed with me. And while we joked through the mismatches, I kept up a steady stream of questions: How could we find the right pieces? How could we group or organize the pieces so they were easier to find? What could we try first, then do second? And so on. The EdGE team incorporates these questions to ponder while puzzling in Jigsaw Puzzles: An Introduction to CT, perfect for classroom educators and parents.

Intimidating for anyone is 1,000 pieces that all look the same and you need to put them back together. By capitalizing on my son鈥檚 strengths of organizing, we worked on separating the pieces into color groups. It was an exercise in persistence and one more step toward problem solving.聽

For those interested in more, some games we鈥檝e explored just for fun and that the internet recommends to support and build EF skills.

• Blokus
• Rat-a-Tat Cat
• Qwirkle
• Jenga
• Mastermind
• Ticket to Ride

Time spent together is important. Time spent with fun games that help develop social skills and EF growth is even better.聽

For more on Kelly鈥檚 experience with a neurodiverse thinker: